Today was a day of faith for the Crain Household. We found out this morning that the wait for our children could be close to 18 months till the referral and close to 22 months before we bring them home. Apparently our request for siblings under the age of 3 is quite popular. This was unknown to us.
The last few weeks have been pretty slow on the referrals for our agency. This is due to a number of factors. None of which any one or agency is to blame, well except the few people who try to break the rules. But this was no one at our agency or any way affiliated. In fact our agency is dedicated to following a strong ethical code and making sure all the t's are crossed and the i's are dotted. However, this has slowed down the number of children being referred at this time, even though the number of orphan children continue to rise.
So this morning we talked with our social worker about breaking points. She told us we could change the age we have requested, change to a single child, or continue to wait it out. So far there is one family that has been waiting 14 mos and still no referral. After we got off of the phone with her we realized yet another way we pictured our life could be different. We are not making any rash decisions. We are going to pray for a while and wait til we feel peaceful about a decision.
If you believe in the power of prayer, please pray for the Crain's. If you don't believe, still pray!!! It is truly the best we can always do. Because we can't do much without Him.
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I linked to your blog from your yahoo post. I am so sorry to hear that your wait is going to be so long!
I will pray that God would give you wisdom in knowing what to do.
Our dossier got to CHI on Monday and will go to DC for authentification on Thursday. We are requesting a boy, 12-24 months. We have no idea how long our wait will be...
You are crossing the same bridge we crossed about 3-4 weeks ago. You are doing the right thing. We slept on this similar info for a number of weeks and really talked it over. Take your time. Obviously, there isn't much of a rush (ha, ha) and do what is right. I found the discussion around modifying our request to be more difficult than I had expected.
Hang in there. We're right there with you. :)
I don't know your exact request, but I do know the people that have been waiting for 14 months are requesting two girls under the age of 3, at least one being under 12 months. If you are more open to gender and age it will help.
We waited for two siblings under 3 for 11 months 4 days. I know the wait is getting longer and is so hard, but I can tell you every day of that wait was worth it. We are still waiting to bring them home, hopefully in June! It will be 4 months since referral on our estimated Embassy appointment.
We didn't request a gender and we did end up raising our ages to 3.5 years and 18 months, which I honestly regretted after I did it. Just to show God knows what he is doing, I actually got exactly what I wanted and dreamt of, twin boys! They were just shy of 3 months at referral.
Good luck and lots of prayer in making this decision!
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